(From the blog of my hubby’s former girlfriend)
One point in my life i was called a flirt.The story goes like this...I have an ex and i was so over him ! I really just wanted to be friends with him and establish the broken friendship. Our relationship didnt last long naman noh. Its just that i was misunderstood all the time by this gf of his. Turns out she is kinda insecure (upps sorry huh if ure accessing my blog and stumbled on this topic) coz the time i did send a forwarded message to my ex ... she replied with all the probing and suddenly attacked me with endless questions and unsolicited advices. Relax! I have my very own life and thats just who i am. Now deal with it. After sending many messages back and forth...she was ticked off by me. Honestly, i didnt fight back. What for naman? Shes just so agitated the more i replied. I guess when she was finished with the words she wanted to tell me she labeled me 'as flirt'. I was dumbfounded. How would u consider someone as a flirt? Shes not acquainted with me. Actually when the guy and i were still dating she was already in the picture calling my then bf during late night to talk. Ex is telling me that over the phone and it never really bothered me for sure! When we broke up she suddenly entered the picture. So u see...whose who? :DNevertheless, the good thing in me i was never insecure even if i am not so beautiful! Hahaha...i find myself charming some days where i really want to dress myself up. There are days that i am just so tamad to be charming. Parang bad hair days. Upps walang kkontra friends tayo!-End-
*** This blog is from the Blog of my hubby’s former girlfriend...When I first read this entry.. I knew she is talking about me... And honestly, I want to pound her face... I was even tempted to post a comment in her blog just to set things straight and ease my mind... but it’s worthless... WHY POST A COMMENT TO SOMETHING THAT HAPPENED A GOOD THREE YEARS AGO?!?! But… as much as I want to… I’m sorry… I just can’t help but react…
I remember the incident that you're talking about...and no... it wasnt after you forwarded a message to Sam. It was AFTER TWO YEARS since the two of you broke up. It was AFTER TWO YEARS that you have been constantly asking him to go out with you just to rekindle your "so called" friendship. Come on! Who the hell are you kidding? Don't I earn the right to react after 2 years of bugging him? (Oopppsss… wag ka magdeny…you wanted to be friends with him from the day you broke up with him…) There were so many times in the first two years that I was nonchalant about the text messages that you sent him. There was even this one time that I was the one who was texting you and you told him that you still wanna be friends… I answered (with his approval) that it is alright for you to become friends again… But after two years, I said no more… that two years is enough…
If you were in my shoes, what would you honestly do? Would you be okay to the idea? Maybe for you, but not for me. What may be okay for you, may not be alright with me. We have different opinions over different situations, and I guess it’s alright if your boyfriend (or husband for that matter) will go out with one of his former girlfriends so that they can rekindle their friendship…
In your blog you said “Actually when the guy and i were still dating she was already in the picture calling my then bf during late night to talk.” – Was I the only one who was calling him? How did the two of you get along? Weren’t you the first one to call him up too? After you met, you asked for his number from one of your mutual friends, who just happened to be my friend too, but was he the first one to call? How did the two of you became the “two of you”? A piece of advise before you use the word that I used to describe you, think about how the two of you got together… because from what I know, I was not the only one to first call him up.
I also read in another entry in your blog that you a “part of you died when you knew you cannot be friends anymore” – WHY? Do you know how he felt? Do you know how broken he was when you broke up with him? Do you actually think that you can be friends regardless of your past? Be realistic – you cannot have everything that you want… Not all people think and act like you…
And, just to set your imagination straight – I WAS, AM, AND WILL NEVER BE INSECURE OF YOU – Why would I be? I don’t think I have reason to be insecure... I really don’t have any idea where you got this – but the mere fact that he chose me over you says it all…Oh… I remember… you also called me possessive and immature… You see… If am possessive and immature I don’t think that we could have lasted up to this very day… Because if I am possessive and immature WHY THE HELL DID HE CHOSE ME OVER YOU?
You want to know the truth? We broke up because of you. Because he wanted to weigh his feelings for me and for you…Remember, you even asked him to pick you up from your office….went to a movie together… talked about your relationship… I gave way… I let him go temporarily so that he will not be confused…And I will be fine if he chooses to be with you… Whatever happened between you and him was none of my business – but as far as I know, it was not entirely his fault – How we got together is also none of your business…
And… if you are so over him, then why the hell write this blog? Why do you put so much effort in making your readers believe that you are so over him – and that your relationship did not last long enough…
I actually made him read your blog… and you know what? He told me to ignore it because it just sucks. But like what I told him, I just cant help but vent… If you are actually trying to draw my attention – well.. I will give it to you… you got me there – I know I should not be overreacting because we have our own lives now… But I just can’t help it…After years of silence and then this? Too much dear… too much…
The bottom line is – RESPECT – If I was so mad that you were asking him to go out with you – it’s just all about respect. I don’t think you would want to be in my shoes – whether broken friendship is the motive here – BUT IT’S JUST ABOUT RESPECT. Besides, how will your husband feel if he found out what you were doing? If he knows – then good for you – If he doesn’t… I don’t wanna think what’s gonna happen…Besides… how would you feel if he will do the things that you do?
I can just go on and on and tell to your face the things that you have said and done… but ranting will get me nowhere. I just wrote this because I just can’t help but react to what you said. As much as I explain myself… you will just believe whatever you want to… so just go and think that you are victorious. We have our own lives now, our own families I may add… All I know is that I am happy… we have been, we are and we will always be…because the girl who once called you a flirt is happy with the guy that you once adored… they have been, for the past 5 years now… and they will always be…
HONEY... I AM SO SORRY... I KNOW THAT I SHOULD'VE KEPT MY MOUTH SHUT... I JUST CAN'T HELP IT....
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